Ask Pulse: 'My wife used GHC300K I gave her for business to go on trips with her ex' — What should I do?

Dear Pulse, I’m sad.

I invested GH¢300,000 in my wife’s business. She always talked about owning her own skincare and spa brand, and I wanted to help her succeed. So I gave her everything I had saved.

She set up the shop and started operations. Things seemed fine. But then she started travelling — Dubai, Turkey, South Africa — all in the name of “business trips.” She said she needed to meet suppliers and attend trainings. I didn’t suspect anything. I thought I was supporting her dream.

But one day, a friend sent me pictures of her in Cape Town with a man. Not just any man — her ex. The same ex she told me she cut off before we got married.

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I did my own digging and realised he had gone with her on every single trip. While I stayed back with our kids and believed she was working, she was using my money to enjoy life with another man.

When I confronted her, she told me I was being dramatic. She claimed he was just “helping with deals” and “business connections.”

Pulse, I’m not a fool. I worked hard for that money. I feel used and betrayed.

Now I want every pesewa back. I told her to pay me back the GH¢300,000. If she has money to fly around with her ex, then she should have money to refund me too.

I would’ve left her by now, but we have kids. I can’t walk away from them, no matter how much pain I’m in. Besides, my family will never allow mee divorce her. So I’m stuck in a marriage with a woman I no longer trust.

I’m really, really sad. What should I do?

-Mr. Alexander.

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Hello Mr. Alexander,

Thanks for sharing your story with Ask Pulse. We know it wasn’t easy. You supported your wife with GH¢300k and she used that trust to secretly travel with her ex. That’s painful, and you have every right to feel betrayed.

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Asking her to pay back the money is fair. She misused funds meant for growth, not pleasure. If you’re staying because of the kids, set clear boundaries. But remember—peace at home matters too. Don’t lose yourself trying to keep things together. You deserve honesty and respect.

— Pulse

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